Just this evening my friend and I were having some discussion about school. We deliberated on this issue so critically as to why school was so important.
The question I always had in mind was "after school, what next?" We came up with this conclusion and I thought it would be nice I share.
There are a lot of young chaps whose primary focus is to acquire university education. I tried talking to few myself and I discovered that most of their decisions were influence of parental pressures. We live in a society where you are being accorded respect based on the numbers of educational qualifications ganered and not on individual capabilities. Some of this children were very exceptional when it comes to technical and vocational skills. But these dreams couldn't see the light of the day because mum wouldn't support your craftmanship and dad want you to toll the same line as his in the medical field. They see you as a never do well when you tried to persuade them to allow you choose your desired profession. Mum would say "you have to study hard, get a wonderful result, get a nice paying job and assist the family" And now you are left with no choice than to do their bidding. This is where the problem starts. Then you struggle hard not to fail your parents and you engage in excessive study and activities that doesn't gives you joy. Now you live with this mentality to make your parents proud and your initial prowess is left to rot.
Now you have finally gotten admission to study a course that doesn't give you the fulfilment you so desire in one of the prestigious universities through the influence of your parents. Here you are now bounded by the strings of liking your new course. But, during the first year's results, you found out that you performed below average and your admission is on the verge of forfeition. You couldn't help to think what will become of you should you ever be dropped out from school. Then your only hope is to go back to those voluminous textbooks, another cycle starts. You no longer go to church or partake in any intellectual gathering. You spent the remaining years in school trying to read that book that is as big as all your secondary textbooks combined together. You had sleepless nights trying to grab what the lecturer barely taught for thirty minutes and then expects an angelic surprise to a test that would come up the next day.
There were times you felt like reconsidering your choice and there were times you felt like things are not working in your direction. But it's too late now as you are already in your third year. Probably by now your parents must have been boasting to neighbors and all those who wish to listen that they have a son in the university studying engineering. Your last resolution now is that you cannot wait for all this to end. You resulted to sorting lecturers when you can't keep pace with the activities going on in class. Each time you open that book, a sudden wind of sleep blows you off to bed and when you wake up you still find the book untouched resting patiently on your desk. You looked at the names of the authors and there you concluded that they were super humans and some kind of evil being that has come to make your stay in school regrettable. Your fun turned sour, your life seem meaningless and graduation still very far.
Thank God you finally graduated after so much struggle. Though you managed to get a good result, you cannot think of life after school and the big question mark now stared directly in your face. That brother who promised you job upon graduation is no where to be found. Now you turned to your parents and they too remained helpless.
Then what you do is to sit there and reminisce on the past.
To all the parents out there who feel they are to dictate everything for your children. Now listen to us! You consider us naive and unable to make our choices. We know you love us and want the best for us. Your efforts in our lives will forever remain indelible in our hearts. You have been making choices for us since when we were kids and I my must confess they were the best. Now that we are old enough to know what's best for us, you must give us this liberty of choosing our own career. Please do not see it as diobedience but rather give us the love and support we need to prosper in this path we've decided to thread. At the end of the day, it is me and the world that would come face to face to fight for supremacy, and it is a lone fight that we are fighting.
Please, let's have your contribution on what you have to say to this.
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